Updated: Jan 29, 2021
hi friends. I thought I'd share some advice on what to do when you are going through some ish. I'm not an expert, this is just what has always helped me in the past. Tell me what you thought down below and maybe comment what your tips are so we can all grow together.
The tips are bullet-pointed down below so you can maybe, after having watched the video (so you know what I am talking about), just copy and paste them and put them somewhere as reminders.
being softer with yourself and allowing your process
center yourself in reality: no denial, only when you're not in denial of your emotions and thoughts can you actually work with them and change them
work on acceptance of reality (acceptance meditations, not distracting, journaling and being honest about how you feel and what you're doing to cope)
work on negative beliefs (the work)
feeling of safety and control
make a daily routine for some semblance of control
safety list (I have a video and blog post on that here on my website)
professional help and community
maximize self care time
finding a balance between comfort and change:
journal journal journal
make a list of all the possible views/perspectives you can have on the situation
what is this teaching me that i don't want - can i find out from there what i do want
which addictions/cravings/obsessions are coming up? can you replace them with something healthier or more productive (e.g. phone time)
more chill time and more quiet time:
do weekly resets (if you need: daily resets)
make a values list and every time you have to make a decision check to see whether what you're doing there is actually in accordance with your values
be very explicit about what you want and need with the people around you
Take care. Stay safe. And I'll talk to you soon.